June 30, 2012
The most important thing that I have noticed thus far is the
importance of family here in Spain. They
do not simply discard the older generations.
In fact, they treat them with love and respect much like we used to in
the States. It is very common here in
Spain for members of the older generation to live with their children and
grandchildren until the end of their lives.
The Martinez family is a prime example of this: Mrs. Martinez’s mother and aunt lived with
them until her mother passed away.
Sadly, Mrs. Martinez was unable to care for her aunt alone after her
mother’s death and had to make the difficult decision to place her in a
retirement home (this is not a common practice and generally brings much shame
on the family who chooses this path).
Mrs. Martinez is NOT the typical example of a neglectful niece,
however. She goes at least once if not
twice a week out to Canet de Mar (about 45 km outside of Barcelona) to visit
with her aunt and take her for walks around town and on the beach. She invites me to accompany them to visit “La
tieta” (The aunt) named Victorina and I gladly accept. Being very close to my own grandparents, I am
excited at the opportunity to bring a smile to Victorina’s face.
We load up the car and head off to Canet de Mar. It is absolutely BREATH-TAKING. Blue waters and rocky shores all the way up
the coastline. When we arrive to visit
the “Tia”, she is watching futbol on TV….this is SO typically Spanish that I
have to chuckle at this 99 year old lady cheering along with the rest of her
housemates for her favorite team and shouting insults at their opponents.
We approach her and tell her hello….her face lights up with
the biggest smile I’ve ever seen. She
thinks that I am her great-niece, Caroline, and we decide it best to just let
her think she’s correct; so, from now on, I shall be Caroline to Tieta. We tell her that we’re going for a walk and
at first she protests (she wants to see the rest of the futbol match), but we
insist and to my amazement, she walks over to her wheelchair and sits
down. We take her along the beach and
into town where she proceeds to scarf down an ice cream cone and some “patatas
bravas” (basically steak fries with a sauce that is a mixture of mayonnaise and
some kind of tomato sauce). We spend the
afternoon singing old Spanish songs and she tells us stories of her
childhood….she is the cutest old lady I’ve EVER met.
UPDATE: Since this
posting, I have been with Teresa (Mrs. Martinez) every week to visit Tieta and
we’re becoming good friends. She has
truly brightened my life here in Spain and made me feel like I have an
additional calling while I’m here in Barcelona:
to be Victorina’s friend.
Another common practice here in Spain is that of young
people living at home until they get married.
Often, even working aged people in their thirties live at home if they
are still unmarried. This was a very
difficult concept for me to understand at first when viewing it through my
American eyes. In the states, we place
great emphasis on independence and being self-sufficient as early as
possible. In Spain, the emphasis is on
family and happiness.
For this reason, I have noticed that although economists
declare Spain in a state of economic crisis, I do not notice the effects of the
crisis here as much as I did at home.
Perhaps this is due to the strength of family values here. I have encountered several families, for
example, who have taken in a brother, sister, cousin, son, etc. and their
family since they lost their home or job.
I have also observed that people live on A LOT less here
than we do back home. They earn much
less money and yet, they seem to be SO happy all of the time. Surely, there are bad times and everyone has
troubles, but the way that Spaniards handle hardships has me truly amazed. Instead of becoming depressed and singing
“Woe is Me”, they spend more time with their families and search for free
activities throughout the city to keep their minds off of their hardships. I truly admire the relaxed Spanish spirit.
UPDATE: I must report that I have, in fact, gained this
“relaxed Spanish spirit”. Being an
extremely Type A person, I find that I am often motivated by stress and often
worry about things both within and out of my control. This has always caused my anxiety and I’m
usually pretty nervous back at home.
Since being here, I am still quite productive, but I hardly ever
worry. I get things done when they need
to be done and I am responsible, but when trouble comes, I simply take it in
stride. I have come to learn that
unfortunate things are going to become you no matter how well-prepared you are
and no matter how much you plan your every move. Ergo, there is no reason to worry; instead,
it is best to just deal with problems calmly as they arise. Y’all should try it! I swear it’s a miracle =)
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